How to word your wedding stationery

Top tips on what to write in your wedding stationery, no matter what kind of wedding you're having

Choosing the exact wording for your wedding stationery can be a minefield. 

Traditionally, invites are phrased as if they have been sent from the bride's parents, but it can become complicated if they are divorced, remarried or widowed, or, if you as a couple, are paying for the wedding yourselves.

Once you've chosen your wedding venue and made a decision on the style and theme of your big day, you can then make choices on your wording.

Read on for what to write in formal wedding invitations, how to word informal wedding invitations and how to let guests know children aren't invited or that you'd like money as a wedding present. 

Image | Anneli Marinovich
Image | Anneli Marinovich

Wedding invitation wording examples:

  • The honour of your presence’ or ‘the pleasure of your company’ is the normal choice of wording
  • The bride’s name should appear before the groom’s
  • List the time, date and venue (in that order)
  • Generally, names, times and places are placed on separate lines.
  • Wording can be adapted to suit different circumstances due to death, divorce and re‐marriage on the bride’s side. For example:

If either parent is widowed: Mr William Bond (or) Mrs Sarah Bond, requests the pleasure…

If parents are divorcedMr William Bond and Mrs Sarah Bond request the pleasure…

If parents are divorced, mother remarried etc: Mr William Bond and Mrs Sarah Matthews request…

Image | John Day
Image | John Day

If you are hosting the wedding yourselves but would still like to follow traditional wording you could use something like the example below:

Miss Charlotte Davies

and

Mr David Brown

request the pleasure of your company

at their marriage

time/date/venue

Some couples prefer a less formal approach and can word it in a more laid-back style, inviting guests to celebrate their marriage as one big party.

Charlotte and David

invite you to join them to share and celebrate

their marriage in the summer sun

time/date/venue

Finally, if you’re hosting your wedding along with input from parents you can use something along the lines of:

Together with their parents

Charlotte and David

Invite you to share with them in celebrating their big day

time/date/venue

Image | Anneli Marinovich
Image | Anneli Marinovich

Not inviting children to your wedding

Inviting children to weddings can easily increase the cost of your catering and if numbers are tight for your venue it can also rack up the total cost of your payment.

If you've decided not to invite children, you need to make this clear on your invitation. Include a tactful note on your invite along the lines of:

As much as we would like to invite all the children of our friends, it is only possible to accommodate the children of close family

 or simply:

We are sorry we are unable to accommodate children

Or for something a little more lighthearted:

In order to allow all guests, including parents, an evening of relaxation we have chosen for our wedding day to be an adult-only occasion. We hope this advance notice means you are still able to share our big day and will enjoy having the evening off!

READ MORE: No children wedding invitation wording examples

If you are inviting children, let parents know if you have made special childcare arrangements:

We have arranged child‐minding facilities for the duration of the service and/or reception.

All of this can be written on your information cards, which provide guests with everything they need on your wedding day (how to get there, accommodation etc)

Writing about the gift list on wedding invites 

These days, the majority of couples getting married are already living together and have most of the household items they need. It can still be a lovely idea to have a set gift list/vouchers from a high street retailer to update your household items or to have as a nice reminder of your wedding day from your guests.

However, another popular option is couples asking for money or for guests to put money towards their chosen destination for the honeymoon. You could offer this as a choice for your guests.

Some examples:

While it's enough of a present that you're coming to our big day, if you'd like to give us a gift we have a gift list at……

Or

Your presence at our wedding is gift enough, but if you do wish to buy us something, a contribution towards our dream honeymoon would be appreciated.

READ MORE: Money poems: Best ways to ask for contributions to your honeymoon

However you decide to word your invites just remember it is your day and you're inviting your friends and family to celebrate with you. Don't stress about what others think!

Scroll down for more wedding stationery wording examples. 

Image | Shan Fisher
Image | Shan Fisher

Informal wedding invitation

For an informal invitation, it’s common to drop the parents off the invitation, and just addressing it from the bride and groom. It’s also a great way to add a touch of personality and humour. See below for an example:

(bride’s first name) & (groom’s first name)
are getting hitched!
Please join them as they exchange their vows
(date), (time)
at (church/venue)
followed by a knees up (at venue if it’s a church ceremony)

OR

Eat, drink and be married!
You are invited to the wedding celebration of
(bride’s first name) & (groom’s first name)
(date), (time)
at (venue)
Reception to follow (at new venue if different)

Formal: Bride and groom hosting

Ms. (bride first name and surname) & Mr. (groom first name and surname) 
Request the pleasure of your company at their marriage
at (venue) on (date)
at (time)
And afterwards for a reception at (if venue different to ceremony)

Formal: From both parents

Mr. and Mrs. (bride's father's name and surname) & Mr. and Mrs. (groom's father's name and surname)
Request the honour of your company
at the marriage of their children
(bride's name and surname) & (groom's name and surname)
at (venue) on (date)
at (time)
And afterwards for a reception at (if venue different to ceremony)

Formal: From bride's parents

Mr. and Mrs. (bride's father's name and surname) 
Request the honour of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
(bride's name) to (groom's name and surname)
at (venue) on (date)
at (time)
And afterwards for a reception at (if venue different to ceremony)

Formal: From groom's parents

Mr. and Mrs. (groom's father's name and surname) 
Request the honour of your company
at the marriage of their son
(groom's name) to (bride's name and surname)
at (venue) on (date)
at (time)
And afterwards for a reception at (if venue different to ceremony)

Formal: From divorced bride's parents

Ms. or Mrs if re-married (bride's mother's name and maiden name or new married name)
Mr. (bride's father's name and surname) 
Request the honour of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
(bride's name) to (groom's name and surname)
at (venue) on (date)
at (time)
And afterwards for a reception at (if venue different to ceremony)

Formal: From divorced groom's parents

Ms. or Mrs if re-married (groom's mother's name and maiden name or new married name)
Mr. (groom's father's name and surname) 
Request the honour of your company
at the marriage of their son
(bride's name) to (groom's name and surname)
at (venue) on (date)
at (time)
And afterwards for a reception at (if venue different to ceremony)

Formal: From two sets of divorced parents

Ms. or Mrs if re-married (bride's mother's name and maiden name or new married name)
Mr. (bride's father's name and surname) 
&
Ms. or Mrs if re-married (groom's mother's name and maiden name or new married name)
Mr. (groom's father's name and surname) 
Request the honour of your company
at the marriage of their children
(bride's name and surname) & (groom's name and surname)
at (venue) on (date)
at (time)
And afterwards for a reception at (if venue different to ceremony)

Formal: From bride, groom and their parents

Ms. (bride's name and surname) & Mr. (groom's name and surname)
Together with their parents
Request the pleasure of your company at (venue) on (date)
at (time)
Followed by a reception at (if venue different to ceremony)

Wedding invitation for evening guests

(bride) and (groom)
Request the pleasure of your company
for an evening reception at (venue)
on (date) at (time)

Second marriages

For a second wedding, parents are usually left off the invite as it’s assumed it is the bride and groom who are inviting. The template for second marriages varies slightly according to the circumstances. For example, if the bride is a widower, she will use Mrs and her married name, but if she is divorced, she will use her maiden name, and can ditch the Mrs. for Ms. or drop this altogether.

Here is an example:

Mrs. (bride's name and married name)/Ms. (bride's name and maiden name) and Mr. (groom's name and surname)
request the pleasure of your company at their marriage
at (venue) on (date) at (time)
Followed by a reception (at different venue if applicable)

For a celebration of marriage if the wedding has already taken place

If you eloped or had a more intimate ceremony with immediate family but still want a celebration with friends, it's usually fine to be a little less formal with your invites, see a couple of examples below:

Surprise, we got married!
(bride name and surname) & (groom name and surname) OR Mr. & Mrs. (groom’s surname)
Celebrate with us with drinks, dinner & dancing
(date), (time) at (venue)

OR

(bride’s name and surname) & (groom’s name and surname)
Are happy to announce that they are married, following a private ceremony
Please join them in celebrating their union
At (venue), on (date) at (time)

Absent/deceased parents

This is no hard rule for this. You can decide to include the deceased parent on the wedding invitation, so it comes from both parents (see template above). Or, it could simply come from the mother or father as a single person, which is more common if the mother or father is not involved.

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READ MORE: How to send your wedding invitations

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